CHILLAX!
Anybody ever tell you to “calm down”? If so, I think it’s 99% likely that you are a female. Why? Because girls and women are always criticized (by both sexes, it must be pointed out) for talking straight, telling it like is, or even becoming angry. And I say, sometimes non-violent anger can be liberating. Telling someone what you really think, if done diplomatically and professionally, shouldn’t provoke the response, “just calm down”. Men, on the other hand, are encouraged to be up front, and to get pissed off about things. Some people even respect a guy who takes a punch at someone he disagrees with. As long as it’s another guy. I’m not advocating for fist fights, I just don’t understand why if a guy punches a woman, 100% of people think he’s a cad. Women, after all, can’t defend ourselves, in a verbal or physical fight. Well, at least shouldn’t, because if we do, we will be ordered to “calm down”. Or as in Trump’s case, wonder out loud whether the woman is menstruating or not. Surely, it couldn’t just be someone doing her job or defending a personal opinion. What do most women do to avoid the “bitch label”? Come on, you’ve seen it. They internalize, painfully, to the point of letting the stress make them ill. They take out their frustrations in other ways, sometimes destructive ones, instead of engaging an offensive person directly. They lamely apologize (“I’m sorry, but I disagree.”). It’s all based on one thing: Fear. Fear of blowing a relationship, of losing a job, whatever. But most significantly – it’s a fear of not being liked. I say – BITCHES UNITE! Listen to your internal council telling you what’s right, and act on it. If you “lose” someone or something, the extreme upside is an end to fear. Call that person in your life right now who recently told you to “calm down” – and calmly tell them to fuck off.